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Title: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 12, 2018, 10:04:16 am
He had lung cancer, he was working in an acid factory without protection when he was young. He also smoked a lot. He lost his mind 2-3 weeks ago and we went to the hospital, they let us go the first week, we fed him with special food, give him medication, do whatever we could do to make him happy etc.

The second week, he got worse so we took him to the hospital, I was alone with my aunt (mother's aunt) for 2 weeks. I could see my parents only on Sundays and at mornings. My mom always left me my lunch, made me breakfast, prepared my clothes and woke me up before going back to hospital.

And the bad news came to me yesterday. The bell ringed, I opened the door and my mom, my dad, aunt, sister and others came in. I thought he was rescued and fine, I sat next to my mother, asked where my grandfather was. My aunt explained everything, I didn't knew I would get so emotional. I was really missing crying on someone's shoulder 4 times until I fall asleep. I had to go to school to give the "Lost Cat" papers I printed to my friend. She had lost her kitten. I blacked out in school so my mother picked me up from school nurse. I still don't feel good about this. I hope he is in a better place right now.

11.10.2018

Rest in Peace, my sweet grandpa.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Kowalski. on October 12, 2018, 10:14:13 am
I am so sorry.

He's got my prayers  :)

I hope you feel better soon, brother
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: James Conway on October 12, 2018, 10:14:54 am
My condolences
I hope he is in a better place right now.
He is. Sounds like he was a hard working man.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 12, 2018, 10:22:55 am
Thanks guys, I really need some support at the moment. And I can't find it anywhere else than the internet and my family.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 12, 2018, 10:23:56 am
Sounds like he was a hard working man.

He sure was a hard working man. He had to go in and out of acid baths to clean stuff, I don't really remember what he was doing in his job but was something like that.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Jairo. on October 12, 2018, 10:47:02 am
even though i don't know you that much, i'm sure he was a great man, i've lost people too and i know how hard it is, may his soul rest in peace.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 12, 2018, 10:53:22 am
It's not important to know each other, it's important to respect each other, thanks by the way.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Younes on October 12, 2018, 11:10:20 am
I'm sorry for your loss RaptoR. Hope you feel better in the future... not by forgetting him but by remembering him and always knowing he's still there.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Darty on October 12, 2018, 08:34:31 pm
my condolences man, losing a grandpa is always hard as i've experienced it myself, stay strong
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: youoo on October 12, 2018, 08:48:13 pm
My condolences my bro! As younes don’t you ever forget him he will always be by your side support your indirecting! I hope you get well soon. STAY STRONG!
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Tomasiro on October 12, 2018, 09:10:58 pm
Bro I can feel how it feels cuz I have also lost my grandpa 1 year ago.
My condolences
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Antonio. on October 12, 2018, 09:22:38 pm
My condolences.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: TedHamilton on October 12, 2018, 10:26:31 pm
Really sorry for your loss, mate. My sincere condolences.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 12, 2018, 10:38:45 pm
Thanks all, he is in a better place now, I am sure he is listening to our hearts right now.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Hammer_ on October 12, 2018, 11:15:26 pm
My condolences, hope you feel better!
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Dabangg on October 13, 2018, 05:42:49 am
I also lost my dadu, in english (My Grandfather) before 5 months, he was so honest and truthful. I can never forget him ever. I will pray for your grand father. :(
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Nadim Jones on October 13, 2018, 08:34:57 am
Mikee :'c my condolences :c god loves hard workers but thats life :/ takes things that we love :c
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 13, 2018, 08:47:49 am
Also, god picked one life from us and gave us two more! My elder sister is pregnant and my aunt's daughter had a baby like 2 months ago.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Eternal_007 on October 13, 2018, 10:30:31 am
Losing someone precious from your lives is a great tragedy. The pain itself is very intense but what can we complain.
Everyone has to die one day or another, its just life around here.
May his soul rest in eternal peace.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Lionel Valdes on October 13, 2018, 11:25:38 am
I'm sorry for your loss, Raptor
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Bennzy on October 13, 2018, 04:19:48 pm
Rest in peace.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 13, 2018, 04:55:16 pm
I came back from his funeral, I couldn't cry, I did now.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Bogomil on October 13, 2018, 07:13:54 pm
I remember when I lost my grandfather, I didn't cry at the funeral, but when I tried to sleep I was falling apart. We were really close. He lived in our village house and one day before we had to go pick him up from there - he passed away. Sudden death can't be forgotten. So many friends of mine died in car crashes out of nothing. It's almost 10 years since my grandfather passed away and I still sometimes feel the pain.
My condolences.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 13, 2018, 07:15:29 pm
It's hard. Believe me. :sweat:
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: AnoneteX on October 13, 2018, 07:59:16 pm
Damn, I lost my grandpa last summer. The tears of pain will disappear as time passes and after years when you think about him and the memories of him there might be tears, but let those be from being proud that you have known this person and had the chance to be his grandson, because I can see you truly loved him.
 
There is one quote I really like "For every dark night there's a brighter day."
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: AlarbaS on October 13, 2018, 08:02:14 pm
I'm sorry for your loss man, may his soul rest in peace!
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Huntsman on October 13, 2018, 10:48:37 pm
I was never really close with my relatives, other than my parents and my grandmother from my mothers side. My family situation is complicated, let's leave it at that.

That particular grandmother was an extraordinary human being. She had lots to complain about: she had constant heart issues and suffered from several heart diseases, and most recently had a very quickly deteriorating eye sight, to the point where she had to wear two pairs of glasses to watch the TV show she loved. The doctors said they can only slow down the proccess, and eventually stop it, but can no longer reverse the damage done by the eye disease as she went to the doctors too late. Yet, never ever when we met would we ever hear her complain about a single thing. Complaining is a thing in my family, especially from my fathers side. It seems to be a running thing, hence I never liked anyone there. Everybody just fucking complains and whines all the time as if that was all they had to do with their lives. My grandma from my mothers side was different. When we went to visit her, she always just enjoyed the fact we were together, rather than burdening us with her problems. Which was not always good.


Her last visit to the emergency room was when she had a consistent chest pain, yet refused to call an ambulance for three days. My mother had called her to ask how she was, and she mentioned having had chest pain, yet didn't call an ambulance, so my mother called it for her. She was in a hospital (like many times before, to be frank), and I had visited her after a week to see how she was doing. She was recovering, had regained her charm and seemed perfectly healthy again. Yet, on the same evening as I returned home, we received a call that she died.

Now I was never much of a person to show emotion. Yet this time was completely different. My grandmother was one of the very few people that I liked from my relatives, and now she was gone. I hated negativity, and she was the source of positivity in my life. It was hard.

So, I know what it's like. But those emotions will pass with time. There really is nothing you can do but let time heal the wounds.


My situation is also similar in a way that my sister gave birth to a child a week before my grandmother passed. God works in mysterious ways, they say, even though I am not really religious.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Cyclone on October 14, 2018, 12:39:01 am

My grandpa always asked me,

"Do you love your grandma more or me?"

I would always answer

"Both"

Wish I could get him to ask me that question once again. I couldn't even say goodbye to him. They didn't let me go to the graveyard with my parents but I secretly got help from a family friend and went there.
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Kowalski. on October 14, 2018, 04:45:12 am
My grandfather passed away in 1992 or so, at least 13 years before I was born. I never got to meet him, and I didn't cry when my grandma died, though I was rather shocked. The one lucky thing was that I was there, on vacation.

I miss my grandmother and I wish I'd got to know her better, but I've also experienced the loss of my cousin and maternal uncle, both young. I was feeling down, that day at school, it was difficult to focus and I really didn't want to study that day.

I still miss them dearly, but I get how you feel, Mike. My condolences and I'm sure he's in a better place now.

I was never really close with my relatives, other than my parents and my grandmother from my mothers side. My family situation is complicated, let's leave it at that.

That particular grandmother was an extraordinary human being. She had lots to complain about: she had constant heart issues and suffered from several heart diseases, and most recently had a very quickly deteriorating eye sight, to the point where she had to wear two pairs of glasses to watch the TV show she loved. The doctors said they can only slow down the proccess, and eventually stop it, but can no longer reverse the damage done by the eye disease as she went to the doctors too late. Yet, never ever when we met would we ever hear her complain about a single thing. Complaining is a thing in my family, especially from my fathers side. It seems to be a running thing, hence I never liked anyone there. Everybody just fucking complains and whines all the time as if that was all they had to do with their lives. My grandma from my mothers side was different. When we went to visit her, she always just enjoyed the fact we were together, rather than burdening us with her problems. Which was not always good.


Her last visit to the emergency room was when she had a consistent chest pain, yet refused to call an ambulance for three days. My mother had called her to ask how she was, and she mentioned having had chest pain, yet didn't call an ambulance, so my mother called it for her. She was in a hospital (like many times before, to be frank), and I had visited her after a week to see how she was doing. She was recovering, had regained her charm and seemed perfectly healthy again. Yet, on the same evening as I returned home, we received a call that she died.

Now I was never much of a person to show emotion. Yet this time was completely different. My grandmother was one of the very few people that I liked from my relatives, and now she was gone. I hated negativity, and she was the source of positivity in my life. It was hard.

So, I know what it's like. But those emotions will pass with time. There really is nothing you can do but let time heal the wounds.


My situation is also similar in a way that my sister gave birth to a child a week before my grandmother passed. God works in mysterious ways, they say, even though I am not really religious.

I'm sorry to hear that, Huntsman. Hope she rests in peace.

They didn't let me go to the graveyard with my parents but I secretly got help from a family friend and went there.

Why not?!  :eek:
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Brad_ on October 14, 2018, 07:44:46 pm
Damn sad, good luck in your future endeavors. When I played in another server (You know which one)  my character lost his grandfather too, so I can feel you're pain..

So, I know what it's like. But those emotions will pass with time. There really is nothing you can do but let time heal the wounds.
Good advice, kid
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Astaroth on January 04, 2019, 03:36:57 pm
Hey bud, just seeing this now. Sorry to hear about your grandpa. If it helps any, he is in a better place now.
I understand your pain, as I went through the exact same with mine, I also lost mine because of lung cancer. Those were some bad times for me for various reasons, and I'm forever thankful that @Gandalf  consoled me through the pain, which is really why I'm still around for Argonath. I know it's been a few months, but if you ever need someone to talk with, feel free to PM me here, iG, on discord, or wherever. Be well. <3
Title: Re: I lost my grandfather
Post by: Luko on January 04, 2019, 04:03:42 pm
My condolences
I hope he is in a better place right now.
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