Everyone with this kind of gripe should consider this "Hypothetical" situation:
The leader of the Melon Patrol is named John.
In the Melon Patrol, there is a member.
Lets call him.. Tim.
Now, Tim had previously been in another group, the Moose Syndicate. He had enjoyed his time there, however had joined John's group for a little change. He found however that whilst the Melon Patrol was quite friendly, nothing much happened.
One day, the Moose Syndicate mentions to Tim that he is welcome back if he ever decides to come back. Tim decides to return because he enjoyed his time in the Moose Syndicate.
John comes out and announces that the Moose Syndicate is stealing members, and that this is not allowed. He has however decided this just an hour ago, when he realised that he could make up whatever rules he wanted.
John needs to consider:
The Moose Syndicate did not steal Tim from the Melon Patrol.
The Melon Patrol f**king sucked, and thats why Tim left.
Remarkably detailed for a hypothetical story? inorite.
I am not suggesting that either group is better.
I am merely suggesting the possibility that:
they want to join us to leave your madness.